17 Questions I Wish I Had Asked My Immigrant Father

My dad as a young man smiling at toddler me playing in the snow in our first suburban neighborhood. I am wearing a pink snowsuit and sporting a Princess Di haircut because my mom was a fan.

For years, one consistent question I would get from young people in anti-racism conversations was about talking to their elders:

“How can I respectfully talk to my elders when they say racist things?”

At first, my answer was about accountability, encouraging these young adults to express their discomfort with the statements, explain why they felt…